We hear this sentence a lot. It's a challenge to hear it from a person who is over fifty, but it is even more of a challenge from someone who is only thirty. \nWe participated in a three-day long, inspiring online workshop with Dr. Edith Eva Eger in 2024. Probably, many of you are familliar with her book \"The Decision\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Edi - as everyone calls her - said this about trauma: \u201cOur painful experiences are not a burden, but a gift. They give us a perspective and meaning, an opportunity to find our unique purpose and strength.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n
It means that everything is really a matter of choice. As Edi says, our greatest freedom is being able to have this choice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
That is the real question with being stuck: do I actually want to have a choice? Do I want to make a decision and have change? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone is afraid of change \u2013 that\u2019s normal. However, fear has ensured and still ensures our survival. When we cross the road, we always look around to see if there is a bicycle or car coming that could hit us, or before climbing a tree, we check whether we can get down\u2026 Fear, normally, encourages us to assess our options, our circumstances and shows us where we need to pay a little more attention, or maybe to prepare a \u201cB\u201d version\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It is a misconception that a choice that brings change is good when we say \u201cyes\u201d and bad when we say \u201cno\u201d. Actually, a decision is good if we feel GOOD about it, because it empowers us. So, the most important in our choices is not whether it is a \u201cyes\u201d or a \u201cno\u201d choice, but that we feel congruent with it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
It is a valid. choice that we say \u201cno\" to change right then and there. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
AND feel okay about it! <\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, in such cases, we often cover ourselves up with the words \u201cI am Stuck in What Life Threw at Me\u201d. In fact, if we are completely and deeply honest with ourselves, we should say to ourselves - \u201cI don\u2019t have the strength, the energy for change right now, I\u2019m not ready to do it or take the next step yet.\u201d This is much more authentic and honest. The energy that stays within us with this clear choice, gives us a chance to gather strength for the next step - to make the decision that we want to change, to be different and feel better. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
New Year's resolutions tend to fail when we try to change 10 -15 things in our lives, all at once, when just ONE is enough. So it's worth considering that ONE thing to start with and do it every single day. \nFor example: \u201cI'll sit down every morning to breathe through my body\u2026\u201d or \u201cI'll commit to doing yoga twice a week\u2026\u201d or \u201cI'll change my plate from big to smaller\u2026\" <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Try out how you can create new thoughts, thus new feelings and ultimately new habits as part of your everyday life, by one small step at a time! <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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